In the mid 1800’s, St. Louis was the western edge of the American frontier. Beyond it was difficult, dangerous territory. Wagon trains embarked from St. Louis headed for parts uncharted and unknown, all the way to the Pacific Ocean. Roads were little more than muddy ruts. In fact, legend has it that a sign along the dirt trail leaving St. Louis said, “From here, choose your rut carefully. You’ll be in it all the way to California.” What ruts have you chosen in life? A routine

As a couples therapist, I often see couples at their worst. After all, you don’t go to therapy to talk about how great your relationship is. I’ve heard the whole gamut of complaints. But, more than anything else, couples come to me saying that they just “can’t communicate.” If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard that, I could retire rich—tomorrow. But, what does that mean…“We can’t communicate”? I’ve found that most of the time, couples communicate very well. In fact, mo