As a couples therapist, I often see couples at their worst. After all, you don’t go to therapy to talk about how great your relationship is. I’ve heard the whole gamut of complaints. But, more than anything else, couples come to me saying that they just “can’t communicate.” If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard that, I could retire rich—tomorrow. But, what does that mean…“We can’t communicate”? I’ve found that most of the time, couples communicate very well. In fact, mo