Trust is Key

I had a strange experience recently. I was out of town (in Texas, actually) and absentmindedly left my phone in a WalMart restroom (big mistake, but I know I’m not the first). I realized what I’d done less than 20 minutes later and headed back for my phone. Too late…it was gone. Now, if you found a lost cell phone, what would you do? You’d probably try to contact the owner or at least leave it with someone responsible. You’d make a good faith effort. Most people would. But, not all.

With my wife’s phone, I called my number and, sure enough, someone answered. He indeed had picked up my phone. I was relieved…for a second. Then, the guy told me he’d happily return the phone to me…for $200, via Cash App. I don’t know who was dumber: me for leaving my phone behind or him for thinking I’d give him a dime to get it back. We both knew one thing: whether I paid him or not, I’d never see that phone again. It was a sad lesson in broken trust as my faith in humanity slipped a few notches. Chalk one up for the school of hard knocks.

Trust is Vital

And I learned again that the world goes crazy really fast without simple trust. Maybe it’s naive, but we all trust…everyday. We trust that the guy beside us on the highway is paying attention to the road. We trust our doctor to be competent. We trust that the guy who finds our cell phone will return it and not extort us! In a thousand ways, we trust that people will just do the right thing. And it usually works out. Sadly, though, sometimes it doesn’t. Fortunately, my mistake only cost me some time and a few (quite a few) bucks for a new phone.

But, when it really counts, trust is absolutely crucial—like with the one you love. Trust, say, in marriage, is a whole other level. The fact is that we all need and seek a safe, dependable bond with the one we love. We need the assurance that our partner is there for us—that they believe in us, have our back, care for and support us, that they’ll behave on our behalf. It creates safety and security and without that, we truly struggle. In fact, it’s traumatic.

Learn to Build Trust

So, building and maintaining trust in love is Job One. That is the glue without which relationships inevitably go awry. And that is what we learn and practice in a Hold Me Tight®️ couples workshop. Hold Me Tight®️ is a game changer for any relationship. Based on attachment science and the tenets of Emotionally Focused Therapy, Hold Me Tight®️ will help you understand and build the kind of trust and safety that lasts a lifetime.

My colleague, Vicki Kennedy and I lead Hold Me Tight®️ retreats four times a year. We’ve been leading them for years now and we’ve seen what just two days at Hold Me Tight®️ can do. These workshops can be transformational. Our next one is in Orlando, FL in August. And, if you’d prefer a cooler climate, join us in Boone, NC in October during the height of fall colors. All the details are on our website at www.hmtcouplesworkshops.com. Every relationship needs a solid foundation. It starts with trust. Let Hold Me Tight®️ show you how.