Making Love Last

How was your Valentine’s Day this year? Hopefully it was great. Maybe it was so so. For many couples, Valentine’s Day is disappointing. Underperforming relationships are hard to hide on a holiday meant to celebrate love. Many partners are left feeling neglected, unappreciated, lonely or just plain forgotten. It’s no coincidence that separations and divorces spike in the weeks after Valentine’s Day—not to mention affairs. Indeed, the infidelity website Ashley Madison always has a surge of subscriptions right after Valentine’s Day every year (interestingly, about ten times more women sign up than men).

But, even if your Valentine’s Day was wonderful, how long did the good feeling last? Usually, cards, candy, flowers, a nice dinner out or even a weekend away feel good for a few days or a week. Nothing really wrong with that. But, a healthy relationships needs more than an occasional “sugar high.”

You need something that lasts. A better plan for long term love is to learn what really makes love tick. There really is a science behind love. It makes sense. Couples who understand love are confident and competent to be close and connected, even when they hit bumps—and all couples do. And that is what we do in a Hold Me Tight®️ couples weekend workshop. Hold Me Tight®️ is a low key, fun and informative way to learn the lessons of love that most of us struggle to figure out on our own—and many never do. It is rooted in attachment science and the tenets of Emotionally Focused Therapy, the gold standard for strengthening relationships. Hold Me Tight®️ is not therapy. But, it can change your relationship in ways that cards and candy never will.

Every couple has conflict, hopefully not often and not intense. But, even then, that conflict seems to have a predictable pattern. No matter the topic, we seem to do the same dance. And that can be discouraging, or even destructive. Over time, it erodes even the strongest couples. How do we break that pattern? How do we create new patterns—of connection instead of conflict? How do we have conversations instead of confrontations? That is exactly what we learn at Hold Me Tight®️.

At Hold Me Tight®️, couples go at their own pace—no pressure. No one is put on the spot. We learn and then we practice new skills, going progressively deeper. Couples consistently leave feeling closer and better equipped. Some say it is the best two days they ever spent together. In our last workshop (over Valentine’s Day weekend, as a matter of fact), one couple told us they learned more in two days than they’d gotten out of two years of therapy.

Hold Me Tight®️ is no relationship “sugar high.” It beats the heck out of cards and candy. It can truly make a long term difference in your relationship. And best of all, Hold Me Tight®️ is not just for Valentine’s Day. Why not make plans now to be at our next workshop in May? And here’s the great news: we’re going to the beach! Our next workshop will be Friday and Saturday, May 29 and 30 in New Smyrna Beach, FL. Our venue is right on the water and we’ll enjoy a wonderful weekend in a wonderful setting. You won’t want to miss it. All the details are at www.hmtworkshops.com.